Helping someone you care about to get “launched” out into the world can be hard when they don’t feel prepared for what may come next. Growth, change, maturity all come with a price and a responsibility that many feel overwhelming compared to the comfort of just hanging out, or maybe it is better said as hiding out on the coach or in your old bedroom. Even the bravest soul can have doubts and fears when faced with an unknown situation and the prospect of moving out into the world is as scary as it gets. The point most people need to realize, and even embrace, is that it’s okay to feel that way and in truth it is even a normal reaction. These feelings come from an ancient part of the brain geared towards survival. They are raw, basic, primitive, and for the most part helpful in creating a hyper-vigilance for your success if it is focused as motivation toward reaching your goals. There is no shame in being scared. How many times have you heard someone say after some heroic event that they were not being brave, in fact they were scared sh*tless but claim that they did what anyone else would do in that situation. Most of us have come to realize that bravery is not about being fearless but about facing your fears and doing it anyway. The key to moving through your fear is by just moving forward one step at a time with each step building your self-confidence. Another way to continue building self-confidence is through knowledge. Knowledge can abolish fear by abolishing the unknown. This will lead to an expanding world of possibilities and freedom to stretch out you arms and reach for your share of a bigger life. A life you get to build however you want it to be by making one informed discussion at a time.
“Never give up on a dream just because of the time it will take to accomplish it. The time will pass anyway.”
Earl Nightingale (1921-1989);
entrepreneur, motivational author
This reminds me of a story I once heard.
Two old friends were sitting in a coffee shop and one friend said, “I have been thinking about going back to school and getting my degree” and the other friend said, “that is a great idea, when do you start?” But the first friend just sighed and said “I’m not sure I should…Look at how old I will be in four years?” and the other friend looked thoughtful for a few minutes and then said “yeah, can I see your point, but can I ask you a questions?” “Sure, what is it? Asked the first friend, “well, I was just wondering how old will you be if you don’t go to back to school?”
It is meant to be a kind of joke but it is surly a thought-provoking one…In fact after hearing it I spent some time thinking about my excuses and then finally went back to school myself. Here it is four years later and I am four years older, but now I have my degree to show for it. I also hope I am just a little smarter as well…
The mind is an extraordinary tool. It is a highly refined instrument capable of tremendous accomplishments. Like most tools it needs to be maintained, to be tuned, sharpened, and cleaned for it to function at peak performance. We all know the advantages to keeping the mind sharp and we also know that learning is the best exercise you can do to grow and sharpen your mind. So take a few minutes each day to stop the madness and exercise your brain by reading a book, learning a few new words, work on a puzzle, or play a game. If you can reduce the risk of thought-stagnation or brain rot even just a little wouldn’t it be time well spent?
“Confidence comes not from always being right, but from not fearing to be wrong.”
By Peter McIntyre
Well, congratulations all you graduating high school senior’s. You have made it all the way to the beginning of your life. Yes I said beginning because if you ask any adult they will tell you that graduating high school is just the beginning. As your first free summer is coming to an end…you may be asking, now what? Let’s face it a little while ago everyone was looking at you like you were a rock star or had just won the lottery. Your Uncle Sal or Aunt Lucy patted you on the back, saying how proud they are of you. You probably felt proud at that moment too but now reality is settling in and you may just feel like screaming, “yeah but…BUT…WHAT DO I DO NOW?” The truth is your education isn’t over at graduation…your real education it is just starting and make no mistake you have a lot to learn. Even though you may feel like you have worked hard to get to this point, everything up-til now was like rehearsal before the big play compared to your future. Now it is time for some reality, to step out onto the stage and step up to the next level of your life. Even if you are planning to go to college the next level probably means getting a job to earn some money. Entering the workforce is the ultimate training ground and I am not going to kid you…it can be daunting at best and even downright scary for most but the best way to get past the fear is to have confidence in yourself and just get out there and, to steal a famous phrase, “JUST DO IT”.
It also wouldn’t hurt to prepare yourself for success by reading my book Congratulations, Great Job! It is a quick read and even just reading the summaries at the end of each chapter will help give you an understanding of expectations and a much-needed shot of confidence.